There are plenty of things you’ll end up having to discuss with your roommate at one point or another, and some of them are downright awkward. It’s usually about more personal issues or the little things that irk you, which can be more difficult than a conversation over what to watch on TV.
So, here are three awkward conversations we know that you’re bound to have with your roommate (or roommates) and some advice as to how to ease the tension while doing so.
“Uh, you two woke me up in the middle of the night.”
Apartment buildings, especially older ones, usually suffer from paper-thin walls where you can hear everything from your roommate’s alarm to their late-night activities. Chances are, bringing up the fact that you’re woken up in the middle of the night every weekend will have your roommate thinking that you’re plain old jealous.
What you’ll need to tell your roommate is that even though it’s Friday or Saturday, you still want to get a good night’s rest. Something else to bring up is if the same visitor is frequently using your resources, whether it’s the shower or the stove. Bringing up more reasons that you’re frustrated may help your roommate see the problem.
If you’ve got more roommates, though, then don’t gang up on one roommate. Just have one person do the talking. Bringing three people in may only cause more problems and hostility. However, if the noisy roommate doesn’t get the message the first time, send another roommate to have the conversation the next time so that the message is clear.
If you’re roommate is eating your food on a regular basis, you’ve got a problem. This is a super difficult conversation to have because the evidence is gone, but that doesn’t mean that it’s not worth bringing up. Once your roommate knows you realized that he or she is doing this, they’ll be a lot less likely to do it again because they know you’re watching.
This could also mean that your roommate is taking other stuff that’s yours, maybe using your printer or jacking bottled water from your closet. Be sure to keep an eye out for a while after you have this conversation to see if it keeps happening, because that may mean you’ll be having the next awkward conversation listed here…
“When our lease is up, I’m moving out.”
This is definitely the most awkward conversation you’ll end up having. It’s usually fueled by other issues that your roommate probably hasn’t understood and will cause a great deal of tension until move-out day. However, this conversation is inevitable. If it’s not a mutual feeling, then it may be even more awkward.
In this situation, the best thing you can do is be honest. Maybe you were great friends before you lived together but you think that the living situation has started ruining your relationship. Perhaps you got a better offer with someone you think will be a better roommate. Whatever the situation, give your reasoning. It’s best for someone to know that a roommate didn’t like about the situation so that they know for the future. Be sure, though, to say what you did like. Hopefully it wasn’t all bad.
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